Menopause has several unpleasant thoughts linked with it. Hot flushes, night sweats, decreased libido and depression are just some of them. They are real problems, cause a great deal of discomfort and worry. The most worrying of these, for most women, is the thought of a dead sex life. There are several stories surrounding sex after the menopause – some of these are just myths while some are true.
Listed below are the bare truths about sex after the menopause and how one can still enjoy great sex.
Truth About Sex After The Menopause
Sex Lives On
The biggest myth going around is that one’s sex life is over once menopause is attained. Ask women who have attained menopause if this is true, and most of them will tell you that their sex life is better now. The reason a woman enjoys sex more after menopause is because there is no tension of getting pregnant and therefore, she does not have to worry about contraceptive methods. In fact, some women enjoy this stress-free sex so much that they are able to reach orgasm more easily and can even have multiple orgasms. This, and the fact that by the time women reach menopause they are experienced in bed, is a deadly combination for great sex.
Vaginal Walls Thin Down And Don’t Shrivel Up
The thinning out of the vagina is a great cause of concern to many women. However, this change is hardly noticeable in most women. In fact, this change causes more psychological problems than physical problems. Women tend to imagine that their vagina has shrivelled up.
The truth is, that the thinning down of the vagina is negligible and at the most may cause pain during intercourse. It continues to remain to look the way it always does. Pain caused by the thinning down of the vagina can be reduced by relaxing your mind during the act.
The use of estrogen creams in the vagina helps a great deal. However, it is important to remember that going on estrogen replacement therapy may have side effects. The importance of talking to a doctor regarding the use of estrogen creams cannot be stressed enough. Make an informed decision regarding the use of this.
Vaginal Dryness Can Be Overcome
Dryness of the vagina is another common complaint. This is due to the decrease in the production of estrogen in the body. A dry vagina can cause lack of interest in sex, pain during intercourse and even bruising. Using a lubricant helps a great deal in making sexual intercourse pain free and enjoyable. Avoid using Vaseline, creams and oils that are meant for the body. These can be uncomfortable and messy to use. Instead, invest in a good water based lubricant that is easy to use, non greasy and will heighten your pleasure. There are several modern lubricants available in the market that you can choose from.
The Need For Intimacy
During menopause, a woman goes through both physiological as well as psychological changes. While the physiological changes can be dealt with, with creams and hormone therapy, psychological changes can be difficult to cope with. It is during this time that a woman needs to feel loved and special.
It is during this time that the need for intimacy is more important than the actual act of sexual intercourse. Having her partner to hold her and tell her how wonderful she is and that he still loves her will increase her confidence, make her feel loved and thereby make sex more meaningful and ecstatic. Foreplay that begins in the morning with loving kisses, and touching and fondling through the day will culminate in blissful sex at night.