COPD can be a scary disease for both your partner and you. While this disease can leave one tired and breathless on exertion, it does not in any way mean that one cannot lead a healthy life. This is true even where sex is concerned. With a few tweaks, it is possible to lead a healthy sex life. Listed below are a few tips to follow that will enable a healthy sex life.
Tips To Improve Your Sex Life With COPD
A Healthy Attitude
One’s attitude toward COPD is very important. This is a serious disease, but by fearing this disease, you are letting it control your life. This is a debilitating disease, however, it is possible to lead a healthy sex life. Accepting the fact that you do suffer from COPD and having an attitude of one who is ready to fight this disease by not letting it come in the way of a normal lifestyle, is half the battle won.
Talk To Your Partner
Just as you have your fears and inhibitions about your sex life with COPD, so will your partner. Talk to your partner about your disease, without holding back any facts. Be open to questions from your partner. Answer honestly all doubts that may be harboring in his mind.
Your partner may want to avoid sexual relations with you so as to avoid hurting you. Talking to your personal care physician about this disease will help your partner understand the disease better and reassure him that a good sex life is possible. Do not ignore your fears; talk about them as well. This will make you both aware and sensitive to each other’s needs and concerns.
The Best Time Sex
In order to lead a healthy sex life, avoid sex when your condition is likely to get exacerbated. Sex after a very heavy meal can lead to breathlessness. It is advised therefore, to engage in sexual intercourse before a meal, when you are feeling light. If you have had a tiring day, avoid sex. Instead, choose a time when you are relaxed both physically and mentally. The idea is to be able to get through the entire act without feeling fatigued or out of breath.
The Act Of Intimacy
Instead of concentrating on the actual act of intercourse, which is penetration and orgasm, take the time to make it more pleasurable for both, your partner and you.
Take time to hold, whisper sweet nothings, kiss and fondle each other. By doing this, you will be able to relieve the tension of being able to pleasure each other and also prolong the act of intercourse,without tiring yourself out. Let your partner know what makes you comfortable. Also, it is important to let him know if you experience any fatigue or breathlessness.
Finding The Right Positions
To improve your sex life with COPD, it is important to remember that some positions will tire you out more than others. In order to get through the entire act of lovemaking without running out of breath and energy, assume positions that do not tire you out. Taking the top position and having to exert yourself could leave you breathless. Instead, allow your partner to take the lead role during sexual intercourse.
Try new positions where you can lie down – preferably on your side. Positions where both partners are lying down helps, since there is no direct weight on one partner. Moving slowly rather than hurrying through it is another method of preventing breathlessness.
Before And During The Act
Use a bronchodilator before and during the act. This will prevent you from going into bronchospasm during intercourse. Avoid alcohol before and during sexual intercourse, as it can come in the way of performance. Make sure the room is well ventilated, as a stuffy room could lead to breathlessness. If the room is too hot, use a fan instead of the air conditioner.